Member Spotlight: Why I Keep Coming Back

Lately, I’ve discovered myself questioning precisely what it’s that has saved pulling me again to MyBCTeam virtually every day for the previous six months. I know that when I was first identified and located this website, I went there strictly to be taught. Doctors do not have the time to teach us, and their solutions are sometimes temporary and to the purpose. It’s most likely designed that means in order to not frighten us. Not being conversant in medical lingo, I did not know the that means of many of the phrases on my prognosis studies. Sure, I checked the that means of every phrase on-line and the extra I learn, the extra confused I grew to become. But I did be taught – on MyBCTeam. I realized how totally different chemical and radiation therapies affected totally different girls. I realized how they’d managed to deal with the discomfort, and I realized loads about how their households and pals reacted to their sickness.

After a month or so of studying their posts virtually every day, I thought, Okay, that is all I must know proper now. Then, after a couple of days of not going to the location, I discovered myself pondering, I marvel how that girl in New Jersey is doing after her troublesome surgical procedure? And the younger girl in New York with two young children, I marvel if she’s feeling higher by now? So, again I went. One won’t perceive how we are able to care about somebody we do not even know and can probably by no means meet, however a connection had already been made. I did care about these girls and I noticed that additionally they cared about me by asking if I was okay and wishing me good luck with my surgical procedure.

I’ve additionally questioned the truth that some members put up virtually every day, or a number of instances a day. Maybe they’re bored or do not have the rest to do, like some people are hooked on Facebook, I thought. But that is not why I hold coming again.

As good as I thought all the postings have been, I could not get the “Why do they do it?” query out of my thoughts. There should be some underlying purpose. Some rationale to why good strangers can develop into so shut and caring. After days of this “why” nagging at me, I assume I may need come near the reply. At least it is a solution that satisfies me. It’s consolation and a protected place for girls to be. From the second we’re conceived, we really feel our mom’s heartbeat and her heat and safety. After we’re born, we really feel her closeness and her protectiveness. Most of us are lucky sufficient to proceed that closeness for a few years.

But what occurs after we develop up? We develop into wives, moms, nurses, cooks, home cleaners, employees … at all times caring for another person. That’s simply what grown girls do. And all is nicely with that till one thing occurs to place us again to the way in which we have been quickly after we have been born: susceptible, needy, dependent, and sometimes scared. And as loving as household and pals will be, they merely can not perceive fully how we really feel. Only one other girl who’s going by the identical factor can perceive. Many of us attain our lowest, most susceptible stage in our lives after we first hear that we’ve got most cancers. Only one other girl can supply us the consolation, safety and heat that we want, very very similar to a mom’s love.

This article was written by MyBCTeam member Penney as a part of the Member Spotlight Series. Penney is a retired dance teacher, property supervisor, and novel editor who loves to remain lively and unfold positivity on MyBCTeam.

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